Absence of Malice

Do you think people are malicious if they hurt you?
It is tempting isn't it, but generally speaking, I'm not sure if I do.
It's more likely that they are inadequate or not engaged.

Do you believe in conspiracies?
Now I love a good conspiracy, but let's assume for a second that they
are all nonsense (they are not!) and that the world is just not that
sophisticated, or perhaps too sophisticated to make it possible.
In that case, is it true that global disorganisation is the actual
reason why the banks/financiers/captains of
industry/politicians/(cough) "leaders" fail so regularly to have a
positive influence on things? Are the results that they claim they've
influenced generally anything more than chance happenings?
It's a fantastic cover for incompetence, screaming to be spun any way
that these czars and lords of business choose.
These well rounded individuals try to persuade us that because of
their apparent expertise in a single aspect they truly understand some
bigger picture. It's all a bit ridiculous. I'd rather believe that
there is an alien civilisation hidden just behind the moon.

So if somebody hurts you, apart from a species of comically,
malicious, catty women and a few acid-throwing Muslims to whom it's a
bit of a stock in trade, then it may be that the reason you're feeling
bad is not because you are fielding someone's malice.

Maybe you just had a taste of the priorities people have for
themselves, or you have not fully realised someone else's truth in a
situation. If you practice, this occurrence should become less
frequent. Which means it will hurt all the more, when you miss it next
time.

It's generally not malice.
Maybe people just don't give a stuff about you.
It's much more likely to be a lack of interest, other priorities, lack
of caring, lack of love, lack of thought, self protection, or million
other agendas. People frequently don't care about your feelings. And
even if they do, they don't give them much thought, do they? Well not
as much as you do anyway. How could they?

It's generally not malice.
Assume that is the case and you might find it in your heart to
forgive, forget and move on.
But sometimes, assume too, that it won't be easy.