On Being Judgemental

When did you last hear somebody use the term 'judgemental'?
I bet it wasn't used about themselves but about somebody else. This is a pity because I think that inherently it's a virtue. It just needs rebranding.

Everybody thinks of themselves as being good at two things: driving, and being a good judge of character.
And yet they claim not to like "judgemental" people.
It's rubbish. If you hear the term come out of somebody's mouth, they are never referring to themselves. But that's the only person that they're giving you any new information about.
Otherwise, they'd hate every single comedian on the planet who makes a living out of that skill.

So it can't be the 'judging' they are objecting to. It must be the 'mental'.
We don't need the term.
Tolerance and intolerance will do.
And endless tolerance is a recipe for disaster as well.
Ask any domestically beaten househusband, or wife for that matter.
Sorry, partner. I'm so out of touch.

Life may have been easier when we were fed with a plastic debris-catching bib as a backdrop, got pushed around in a pram, and had unchallenged access to the Dorothy Perkins changing rooms.
But there comes a point in life where it's best to do that only at weekends or when you think nobody will catch you. (Particular if you don't happen to be female)

Life should be fully played out with a little honest performance.
After all, people wear make-up, buy shoes (that's women mainly), smile when they wouldn't choose to, develop table manners (sometimes), it's all part of the show.

Even some actors are sincere.
And eventually, we all become what we rehearse.
Let the audience judge.
But please, be gentle.