Doh!

Men, it's important when you're in a relationship to be needy.

You have heard the old adage that people get what they need in life not what they want.

That is the case also in relationships because ultimately that's what they will learn to look for.

Of course people will ask them what they are looking for, what they "want".

But in reality they will ultimately need to search for what they need, unless like a rollercoaster has a never-ending appeal.

They'll look for a fun loving go-getter, a cheeky charmer with a great sense of humour.

But after they've married a couple of those, and divorced them in between, they'll say they got it all wrong. Charmers are leopards.

But they didn't get it all wrong.

They just got what they wanted, not what  they needed.

People need to need. And they need to be needed.

So if you want to be needed, you need somebody who's needy.

It's a paradox, like most of life, but this trail has been successfully blazed by better men than me. Even at its most  elementary level of not doing the washing up very well. Essentially it's quite a sophisticated technique.

Learn it well.

Some of us have developed not to be over needy.

Some of us are not nearly needy enough.

That's a mistake. 

It's too late for me. 

But for the sake of humanity, act now. 

Save yourselves.